The divorce rate in America is approximately fifty percent. I find that to be quite high. This post is not about why this rate is so high but instead on the most common causes of divorce.
Why do people split?
1. Cheating
The pain of knowing their partner cheated leaves anyone devastated and once the trust is broken, it is hard to regain.Working on a relationship after infidelity is difficult for most people and how could you ever really trust that it wouldn’t happen again?
2. Lack of Sex Life
Whatever the reason for a lack of sex in a marriage, if the sex is not happening, that’s a big problem. If anything, in a marriage you need to work on keeping the sex life in check so spicing it up is a must. No sex life, means no marriage.
3. Money Problems
Money is also a major issue. It could be that one partner overspends on items that the other partner disapproves of or it could just be a lack of money altogether. Maybe one partner is not working and the other partner feels the pressure of providing a good income.
4. Abuse
The abuse that a partner suffers could be emotional, physical or could even involve abuse of substances such as alcohol and drugs.
While some partners work things out by seeking professional help, often times the abuser is in denial and the only option is to leave the marriage to save yourself.
5. Different Expectations About Having or Raising Children
Sometimes one partner is set in their way and doesn’t want kids while the other one does. One partner may also be infertile. Other issues could revolve around how to raise a child. For example, one person might spoil their child and the other one is set against it.
There are many other reasons, but in my opinion, these five seem to be the most common causes of divorce.
I also think that instead of working on making the marriage work and dealing with the problems constructively to make things better, couples give up too easily. Perhaps it is because the laws of divorce has made the process much easier. Yes, it could be much easier to throw your hands up in the air and just get a divorce. But to have any marriage last, if the love is there and you want your marriage to work, you need to work in partnership to make things last.
What are your thoughts?
